Ever wondered what quirks might turn guys off? You’re not alone. I stumbled upon a fascinating discussion where guys spilled the beans on behaviors they can’t stand. Ever felt that cringy sensation too? Dive into the top-rated responses and see if you agree with what others say.
1. Getting the Silent Treatment
The best response to the question of what gives you the ick is about silent treatment, which gives this person the ick. He hated it when he did something wrong and tried to apologize, but the other person said nothing. It felt hurtful.
Silent treatment is considered abusive. It’s okay to say, “I need space. I will reach out to you when I’m ready.” They can’t understand how someone can be close to another person and punish them with silence.
2. Thinking a Toxic Trait of Theirs Is Cute or Quirky
One thing that gives this person the ick is when people think their toxic traits are cute or quirky. There’s a big difference between being blunt respectful, and being mean.
Another person adds that being blunt is situational. If someone is upset because their mom passed away, telling them to get their act together isn’t being blunt, it’s just hurtful.
3. Confusing Confidence With Being Inconsiderate
One thing that bothers this individual is when women confuse confidence with being inconsiderate. Another person also mentions that confusing consideration with lacking confidence is another issue.
A third shares his experience that it’s quite amusing when someone thinks they can mistreat you because you choose to be kind, but they get surprised when you stand up to them.
4. Being Tested by Them
One thing that bothers this person is the constant testing in relationships. They understand that past experiences may have caused someone to be cautious, but they don’t want to be constantly tested or accused of lying.
It’s important to give each other trust and not assume that all men are liars based on past experiences. It creates distance and doesn’t show the other you trust them.
5. The Social Media Mask
One thing that bothers this man is when women loudly empathize with every cause and group on social media but treat people in their personal lives poorly. It’s like they care about all these causes online, but they don’t show the same empathy to the people around them.
Another person adds that social media has created a platform where people can show support for causes without actually doing anything in real life. They get praised for their performative support without making any meaningful effort.
6. Having the Victim Mindset
It’s frustrating when women lie or do something hurtful, and then they play the victim, making you feel like you have to comfort them even though they were the ones who hurt you in the first place. It’s like you end up consoling them when you’re the one who needs comfort.
Another person adds that this behavior is called DARVO, which means “deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender.” It’s a manipulation strategy used by psychological abusers to shift the blame and make themselves appear as victims.
7. Lie About How They Feel
One thing that bothers this person is when women lie about their feelings. They find it frustrating and hard to deal with someone who says they’re okay, but it’s obvious they’re not.
Another shares a personal experience, saying their ex used to do the same thing. Whenever he asked his ex how she was, she would always say, “I’m okay,” even when it was clear she wasn’t. He had to keep pushing her to open up; it was tiring and draining for him.
8. Not Taking Accountability
The biggest ick for this person is when women don’t take accountability. If they mess up, are rude, or are incorrect, it’s unattractive when they refuse to apologize or admit fault. Own it and apologize like a grown-up without adding excuses like “I’m sorry, but…”
Not taking accountability shows a lack of responsibility and maturity. It also makes it difficult to trust someone who can’t own up to their mistakes and learn from them.
9. Cleaning Their Hair Out of the Drain
This man shares that he gets grossed out when cleaning his wife’s hair from the drains. He gags, and he’s not sure why. He’s okay with other gross things, like cleaning up his dog’s vomit, but the hair in the drain just gets to him.
Cleaning someone else’s hair out of the drain is no fun because it can be slimy and gross. The feeling of pulling out tangled hair from the drain is just uncomfortable for some people.
10. Being With Friends VS Being Alone
It’s not a great feeling when you’re hanging out with friends, and suddenly your girlfriend starts treating you differently, making jokes at your expense that they wouldn’t normally make. This person has experienced this in multiple relationships and finds it unpleasant.
This behavior shows a lack of respect and empathy towards the targeted person. Making jokes at someone’s expense and treating them differently in a negative way is never okay.
11. Acting Dumb to Be Cute
One thing that gives some people the ick is when women pretend to act dumb to be cute. It can be frustrating because intelligence is attractive, and pretending otherwise can be perceived as insincere.
Acting dumb may give off the wrong impression and make others doubt a person’s authenticity. Embracing one’s intelligence and personality without the need to put on an act can lead to more genuine and meaningful connections.
12. Not Covering Their Mouth While Sneezing
One person shared how they saw a cute girl on a treadmill at the gym sneezing four times without attempting to cover her mouth, which disgusted them.
Another person adds that it’s even worse when people cough into their hands and touch everything around them. They emphasize the importance of basic hygiene in such situations.
13. Why Hating Repels Instead of Empowers
One person shares their ick about women who ‘casually hate’ everything and genuinely asks themselves why they are always upset about everything.
Another idividual adds that they believe these women may think it makes them seem mature, but it just pushes people away. A third person appreciates the term “casual hate” and finds it fitting to describe this behavior.
14. Fake Anything
It seems that what women call “enhancements” do not register as such to men. A lot of men believe that having “fake anything” is the most unlikeable thing in women.
This includes fake lips, lashes, nails, and implants. Women, however, are quick to respond that men only do not like these if they are poorly done.
15. Hating On Other Women
One guy talked about a girl he dated who loved throwing hate on other women. One woman shared that she was like that when she was younger because she saw other girls as competition. Other people have commented that this is usually due to self-esteem issues.
16. Pretending Not To Notice Men
One person shared that women have a habit of pretending not to care or notice even if they like someone. While this is okay initially, doing it further into the dating stage can be a little annoying. Some said that some women are only playing hard to get.
On the contrary, women believe men should exert more effort to be noticed. Does it mean they are not trying hard enough?
17. Dropping Hints Instead of Being Direct
Omega has an experience with a female housemate who told him early on that she was lesbian. After being just friends, the girl suddenly started spending more time with him.
Only when they started dating did the girl reveal that she was actually giving him hints!
18. Trying to Look Like Other Women
Somebody said that women who try to copy or look like certain influencers are a turn-off.
One person seconded this opinion and said celebrities trying to impose beauty standards are vile and manipulative. “They continue to make the world my daughters will grow up in worse,” another added.
19. Fake Baby Voice
While some women probably find this cute, other men get irritated by women sounding like a baby. Then, some remarked they find women with deep, husky voices more attractive.
20. Acting Rude and Entitled
Men do not like women who are rude and feel entitled.
Well, who would want to be with someone who thinks they can always have things their way? Others agree that this is not empowerment and is an unlikeable trait in general.
21. Trying to Look Dumb
Someone shared that they have seen women dumb themselves down for the man they love. It appears that many other men have seen this too and they do not think it is right.
A few women defended themselves, saying it was necessary to act less intelligent in order not to hurt their man’s ego.
22. Being “Wannabe” Influencers
One person said that he gets annoyed by women who are trying hard to be influencers. They are referring to women who post their lives on the internet to gain followers.
Some men say that, while there are people who post worthwhile content, some women just post anything for the likes. Somebody else commented that it’s a problem with both men and women.
23. Too Many Selfies and Online Validation
Steeze said that one of the things he hates is women taking endless selfies and posting them. They further said that it is like women seem to need a daily dose of online dopamine.
Someone also shared that some girls just post pictures of their faces all day, every day, and it is irritating.
24. Too Conscious Of Physical Appearance
Women generally want to look good for men. However, one person says that if a woman makes a bigger deal of it than trying to improve her personality, that makes her unappealing.This person also says that if women focus more on their looks – their face, hair, body – they are just objectifying themselves.
25. Acting Like Somebody’s Mother
Somebody said that he does not like women who act like his mother.
People who responded asked why that was a problem. One other person said that he probably does not like being told what to do.
26. Using Excessive Filters in Photos
Ever since filters became a thing, it has been almost impossible to see unfiltered photos online.
One person said that filters have made people look unrecognizable. Another joked that he might find himself looking for a poreless woman with puppy eyes and a sparkly halo.
27. Being Overly Jealous
While this is human nature, toxic amounts of jealousy could drive a man away.
A man shared that women usually start by asking about the girls he knows and eventually ask him to stop talking to them. He left some advice, saying that people with this type of partner should get out of the relationship.
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