13 Outdated Dating Myths That Are Wasting Your Time

Swiping left and right may be the norm, but some dating beliefs still belong in the past.

Dating has changed drastically with the rise of apps and digital connections. While technology makes meeting people easier, many outdated ideas about love and relationships continue to hold people back.

If you’re serious about finding something real, it’s time to drop these 13 dating myths that are doing more harm than good.

1. Waiting Three Days to Call

The three-day rule states that a person must wait three days after a date before calling another person. Apparently, if you break this rule, you’ll come across as needy and desperate. Those three days are enough time to consider the date and make you look cool. 

Why wait? If you know what you want in your partner, it won’t take three days to decide and ask for a second date. Some people tend to lose interest in that short period, and you can also come across as uninterested in the other person. 

2. Men Love the Challenge of Chasing Women

Men don’t love the “chase” because pursuing uninterested women wastes time, money, and ego. The notion that men love this challenge is risky. If a man relentlessly pursues you despite your repeatedly rejecting him, it might be a good time to call the authorities. 

3. You Need to Really Like a Person Before Dating Them

Dating is all about getting to know each other. How can you say you like or dislike someone without knowing about them first? Go on a date first, have fun, and learn if you’re compatible. Give yourself a chance to get to know the other person. 

4. Thinking Things Will Sort Themselves Out in Relationships

When it comes to dating, don’t be passive when issues arise. Take a proactive approach and don’t assume problems will resolve themselves.

If you have a mismatch in priorities, discuss it with each other. Ignoring it will only worsen the situation.

5. Women Need to Wait for Men to Make the First Move

In a conservative society, there’s this old idea that women need to wait for men first to show an interest. With the rise of women’s empowerment, this concept is outdated.

If you’re a woman who’s interested in someone and wants to test her luck, go ahead and confidently introduce yourself.

6. You Need to Feel a Spark to Go on a Second Date

If you’re looking for a “spark” in all of your dates, you will be searching for a long time. The first date is crucial and will affect whether you’ll go on a second date. You must find the other person interesting to move to the next step. 

However, expecting to feel a “spark” on the first day will not always happen and shouldn’t stand in the way of your second date.  

7. Don’t Talk About Having Kids on The First Date

Having children is often a serious topic and a non-negotiable in a relationship for many. Talking about your non-negotiables early in the dating stage is not bad. For some, it might feel like a punch in the gut, especially when it’s the first date. It’s not taboo, though, and some might find your honesty refreshing, especially if you’re dating with marriage in mind. 

8. You Can Draw In Attractive People by Insulting Them

Boys pull on girls’ hair to get their attention. While that may work on children, it won’t work on adults. There’s this concept that to get the attention of someone not interested in you, insulting them is key. It takes down a person’s ego to a level where they’ll be vulnerable and accept anyone. It’s an approach that won’t win people over and won’t get people to like you.

If you’re looking to date seriously, approach the relationship with honesty. Don’t play dirty; build each other up instead of putting the other person down. 

9. Men Aren’t Attracted to Women Who Make the First Move

Some men find it a compliment when women make the first move women make the first move on them. Their tastes in women vary from one person to the other. While some men may love to make the first move, others find it refreshing to meet a woman who knows and works for what they want. 

10. Women Don’t Get Rejected

It’s not true that women never get rejected. Rejection happens to both men and women. One of the reasons why some women are anxious about making the first move is because of fear of getting rejected. 

11. Going Swimming on a First Date Is a Good Idea

Some say swimming on a first date is genius because you see your date in their bathing suit. The concept originates from men wanting to see how their dates look free from makeup, especially with how transforming today’s makeup trends are. 

However, asking for a date in a swimming pool is very uncommon, and I wouldn’t recommend it. 

12. Men Only Want Intimacy

Men have their reasons for going out on a date. Some admit to just wanting a fling or someone to be with, while others want to marry.

If you’re on a date with a man, don’t assume he just wants to get in your pants. More often than not, they want to be with you and have fun. 

13. Women Only Look for Attractive Men

No, women don’t always go for tall, athletic, and handsome men, especially if they are walking red flags. Everyone wants a person who can accept them for who they are.

While there may be preferences in looks, it’s not the major qualification for someone’s “true love.” A person’s personality and compatibility with each other are more important.

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