4 Steps To Overcome Your Quarter-Life Crisis

A few friends of mine are going through their quarter-life crisis, or whatever you want to call it. They don’t feel fulfilled in their jobs, they don’t know where they’re headed with their careers and they keep comparing themselves with others. Some are unemployed or underemployed, despite their university degrees. Others are leaving long-term relationships and/or moving to new cities, they are dealing with a great amount of uncertainty.

Most of my friends are just wondering whether this is it regarding their relationships and career. They don’t feel happy despite the fact that everything is okay in their life; a decent income and a job is there. But there is this feeling that something is missing. They compare their achievements with others constantly, get overwhelmed by the choices and just don’t know what direction to take in life.

I also was that person, unfulfilled and wanting more, more more. I didn’t feel fulfilled in my job, didn’t see myself choosing my current accounting career path for long. Also, I kept comparing myself with friends who (seem to) have it all together. Plus I am paid a below-average salary, which doesn’t fulfill me either (some friends earn almost double of what I earn). The classic quarter-life crisis scenario. The only thing is that I took action a few months ago and that I continue to take action. It’s the best decision I’ve ever made!

I want to teach you how to take action, how to get out of your quarter-life crisis even though it might feel like you’re on thin ice.

Because you deserve a fulfilled life.
You deserve that great job.
You deserve that great business.
Because you are able and worthy of living your best possible life!

So I’ll be walking you through how to solve any problem by taking action!

[Related read: Money & Confidence as a Way to Living your Best Life]

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Steps To Overcome Your Quarter-Life Crisis

1. Talk about Your Quarter-Life Crisis

This is the #1 place to start! Talking with someone about your issues enables you to see it in context. When the issue is going on and on in your mind, it will only get worse. I really advise to talk to someone about it, to put things in perspective.

It seems that everyone is having it together and you don’t. Honestly, everyone has their own struggles. Everyone goes through the process, we just don’t want to see it. Trust the process. You will get where you want to be.

2. Be Grateful for your Quater-Life Crisis

Your perception of falling behind and comparing yourself with others, might not be the whole truth. Often we only compare ourselves with the ones that have it better than you (at least, that’s what I do). When you look around you, there is always something to be grateful for. If you are unemployed, be grateful that you can live at your parents’ house. When you get paid minimum wage, be grateful that you are employed. When you are unemployed and struggling to pay the bills, be grateful for your family, your friends, your support system, your drive to keep searching.

You get the point, there’s always something to be grateful for! What really helped me focus on the positive is to write down 3 things that I’m grateful for before I go to bed.

3. Start A Side Hustle

Not just any side hustle, but a side hustle that is more in the direction of what you feel called to do. Think about what do you want more of in your life? Do more of what you love and less of what you don’t.

I started my blog after almost a year of struggle and frustration. I was insecure to start working a job in the first place, but I felt like I didn’t have any choice. Once I started working I felt completely unfulfilled by my job. I didn’t want to work for someone else, I wanted to work for myself!

The problem was, I didn’t know what and I didn’t know how. I applied to two seminars, one of T. Harv Eker called the Millionaire Mind Intensive. I found so many great people there, that I would owe it to them and to myself to start taking massive action!

Within weeks of attending the seminar, I started my blog. If we skip the mental breakdowns, it went quite smooth. I just started, I took action. Every day I’m getting up at 6 am, write until 8 am, go to work, write again.

Now working my day job is easy for me, because I know it’s just something that I do to keep my income while building something for myself. I feels like I’m Superwoman with a secret life that no one knows about, it’s awesome!

Starting a side hustle is a very realistic way to enjoy your career and continue to get your salary. Go volunteer, start that blog, start selling those printed dog shirts (that’s my back up idea when this blog doesn’t work out, I love dogs)!

[Related Read; Side Hustle Ideas to make More Money]

4. Take action, take action, take action

We all know the cliche quotes;

  • Start before you’re ready
  • The best time to start is yesterday, the second best time is now
  • A year from now you will wish you’ve started today

But you know, they are very very true.

Because you have to start before you’re ready.
Because the second best time to start is now.
A year from now you’ll wish you’ve started today.
Because you can do it.
Because you are the only thing holding you back.
If you don’t start, you will be sure never to get anywhere.

When I’m hesitant about taking action, I ask myself:

What’s The Worst Thing That Could Happen?

For me, the worst thing that could happen is not having any readers. Okay, that would be disappointing, but that would not be the end all be all! I would still have my job, my friends, my family. So I can live with that.

Taking action is all about overcoming your limiting beliefs around money and abundance. Because you are good enough, you deserve to be happy and fulfilled.

So I want to ask you, what is one thing that you could do today that will take you a step closer to where you want to be?

Ask for that raise
Start that side hustle
Talk to your friends
Realize that money and confidence are intertwined
Talk to friendly strangers on the internet

Just do you!

What is the one step you are going to take today?

4 thoughts on “4 Steps To Overcome Your Quarter-Life Crisis”

  1. I completely agree with this idea that work should just be a small part of your day. I am at the stage of a midlife crisis, but now that I spend time each morning reading, exercising and having a decent breakfast, commuting listening to FI and motivational podcasts, then my evenings working towards my goals and trying to find something to write on my very new blog, the actual time at work seems so much less. When I spent the evening just watching TV the week seemed just to be all about work. Now it feels like my life is much fuller.

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    • Very good that you are currently in the process of overcoming it, how is it going for you until now?
      Yes I totally agree with what you say! When you have other things to do, you can also shift your mind from only thinking about work. When you’re watching TV in the evening, you might already be thinking about the work you need to do tomorrow. But, if you just focus on spending time doing things you love and getting up early, you literally create more time to do things other than working.
      Great job, keep up the good work!

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